THE HIDDEN DISCIPLINE

Recently I read a FB post from Peace Arnold in which she shared an excerpt from the writings of David Whyte, an extraordinary poet. The sharing regarded the very human feeling of aloneness/separateness.

You might ask” what is a hidden discipline?” The title of the sharing attracted my interest. Within the larger context of a short essay were these few words: “Awareness is the hidden discipline of familiarity”. They captured my attention. They drifted down through my conscious awareness and kept on sinking. Bringing up long forgotten memories, pictures of the many times, in the midst of a familiar activity I lost touch with the broader awareness of all of life flowing around me. Shared pictures of how this loss of awareness was, in my experience ,absolutely and profoundly true.

True when I am driving along a familiar route and realize that my attention moved inward, focusing upon the thoughts running in my head like a hamster in a wheel- round and round, going nowhere. True when I discover that I seem to have “lost” myself, in a narrow and deep focused doing. In both cases, as I participated in the familiar- my awareness of the world around me, sensations, sounds, colors, feelings faded and my attention seemed to have become anesthetized, oblivious.

I use and have used the word awareness to describe the state of being a witness. A witness to my personal languaging, to my breath, to my thoughts. David Whyte’s phrase created a bridge between two very separate experiences of awareness. One the awareness with a purpose- to be a conscious witness: a deliberate, focused and purposeful act. The other- the awareness imbedded within the familiar. It is this later form of awareness that I experienced while driving with my 93 year old friend along familiar fern lined country roads, listening to her share how a tree/ the flowers/the birds had changed from the week before, the season before, the year before. She demonstrated an aliveness to all of life as it flowed around her. Her awareness was integrated into the flow of nature from one minute, one day, one week, one year flowed into another. She demonstrated impeccable awareness; integrating the smallest details into the broader flow of nature’s rhythms- the hidden discipline in the familiarity of a daily routine.

In Transcendental Rebirthing Certification Training as we are reminded of the importance of holding a state of discernment, safety and tracking- always tracking- broadening our awareness to include every being in the room, monitoring their breath, their body language, listening to the space itself- always maintaining a constant state of wide awareness. We are called to never lose our awareness in the story of the being who comes to let go of all the stories of who they thought they were, to become the being that they truly are.

Awareness the hidden discipline in familiarity-
Do you have it?
Did you ever have it?
Can you feel how it can take you deeper and wider, even more than before?

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WHAT'S LUCK GOT TO DO WITH IT?

When we use the personal language of luck, we think good things happen to us through some random throw of the dice, through whims of powers outside of our self. With the language of luck we deny the importance of our own choices, our own efforts. 

In this webinar we will explore some of the common ways we think about luck.  We will learn new personal language that supports us to reclaim our life and take credit for our choices and their outcomes. 

Join us on February 23 at 9am PST for a free webinar. You will identify some personal language of luck that doesn't support you.  You will choose some new language.  Language that will support you to let go of chance, take action and become the creator of your own life experience.

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LEGACY

Legacy is defined as either money or property left to another, or the actions, or beliefs of the past which are brought forward and affect the present and the future. 

What legacy do you choose to leave? What do you leave behind? In the world, in the hearts of others, what gift do you leave to be experienced, shared and remembered by others? 

The recent passing of my dear friend has activated my own awareness and focus upon Legacy. These recent life experiences have given me the opportunity to examine this subject of Legacy in relation to my own choices, my own end of life preferences and the choices I make day to day, moment to moment. I realize that often myself and others become preoccupied with the allocation and designation of our resources and possessions after we transition: Who gets the house, remembering our favorite person, relative or charity in our will. 

In the process for planning for a future that is truly non-existent, I don’t know about you, I lost my focus and clarity on what is really important- Is my legacy the passing of property to others? Is it the perpetuation of the unfinished/uncompleted business of my ancestors, Or is my legacy to transform ancestral legacies that do not serve, complete and close the cover on the stories that gave life to beliefs of limitation, lack, suspicion, control etc. To model and by example embody a life of kindness, love, clarity and non entanglement. 

As I embrace and let the experience and the feelings of the passing of my dear friend sink and flow through me, I feel my awareness deepening, widening and opening. Often the management and allocation of possessions begins to take on great importance when someone passes. It becomes the focus of family and personal unresolved issues from childhood. In her passing and the aftermath of the allocation of the stuff- my friend gave me yet another gift: the importance and clarity of what I desire to “leave behind” has become very clear. 

While there is often drama around the stuff, what was and is the most important, the most valuable legacy for me, is the way that one being touches the life of another. The gifts, the legacy beyond value is the legacy of gratitude, appreciation, kindness, service and loving presence. The person that I have become and grown into is the result of my willingness to say yes to opportunities to change and the generosity and love of teachers, friends and family who have been and continue to be agents of change and transformation inspiring me, challenging me and supporting me on my journey to become even more of who I am. 

My experiences this past 2 years have led me to rededicate myself with even more congruency, intention and heartfelt awareness. I am committed even more to sharing my deep appreciation of my friends, my teachers, my family and my students with them and with others while I am here. I desire, that as my time to let go of my 3D life arrives, that my legacy will be complete, known and experienced by me, through me with those that have touched me, enriched me and challenged me to become even more. Leaving physical manifestations of my love and appreciation is something that I may feel moved to do. Leaving a legacy of gratitude, loving presence, kindness, service, joy and laughter is what I commit to doing. 

How about you? What legacy do you choose?

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SURRENDER AND HEAL

SURRENDER AND HEAL
AND 

BECOME YOUR OWN LIFE COACH

Regardless of the personal coaching and work that you do, the clearings you perform and receive -

Do you discover yourself repeating stories to yourself or others- about your experiences and the certain truth of what others did, felt, thought? Do you experience that powerful certainty – that you are right, that you have been wronged by others, not supported by others? That whatever they did, whatever space they hold, that it did not look like love, feel like love? Certain that you know the heart of another?

I have been witness to the way my thoughts contribute to feelings of unhappiness, self diminishment and judgment of others.I have observed these same corrosive thoughts play out in the relationships within my own family. I have also been gifted to see within the families of others and my own, the powerful way the unfinished business of ancestors, siblings, and parents can become the voice of the present- so that the higher self temporarily disappears in the 3d personality of unfinished ancestral legacies and bitter feelings of abandonment and betrayal. 

I recently read 4 simple sentences that can support you and I to “surrender and heal” to let go of stories, grudges and imagined wrongs. 4 simple sentences that support you and I to become our own personal coach, to support our own spiritual growth and development. Here is life wisdom in 4 simple sentences¹.

I am sorry
 

I was wrong
 

I don’t know
 

I need (would appreciate) help 

Put the suit on, use these sentences with consciousness and awareness see what unfolds within.

¹ Penny, Louise;Bury your Dead

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THE BEGINNING OF LOVE

THE BEGINNING OF LOVE

IS
THE WILL
TO LET THOSE WE LOVE
BE PERFECTLY THEMSELVES,

THE RESOLUTION
NOT TO TWIST THEM TO FIT
OUR OWN IMAGE.

IF IN LOVING THEM
WE DO NOT LOVE WHAT THEY ARE,
BUT ONLY THEIR POTENTIAL LIKENESS TO OURSELVES,

     THE WE DO NOT LOVE THEM:

WE LOVE ONLY THE REFLECTION
OF OURSELVES WE FIND IN THEM.

THOMAS MERTON- NO MAN IS AN ISLAND

Have you ever asked yourself  What is love, what does it look like, how does it feel?

 

Several years ago, my friend and teacher said "I have never met a person I didn't love". At the time I thought to myself,  'wow, I can't say that!!  I have met some- quite a few in fact that I didn't love'.  Through time and even more life changing teachings and experiences I have come to realize that for me I, in fact,  had created 2 different experiences of love.

The first, the most common/ familiar  one to me, is what I call 3D love.   The love that experiences, loss, grief, jealousy, envy and self comparison thoughts, such as I am not as.....,  qualifying thoughts such as "If you loved me you would......", "if you knew me, truly knew me you wouldn't love me", "I don't deserve...   This form of love requires constant affirmation, signs that you truly love me, or that you love me as much as I love you. It also requires constant demonstration from me, that in fact I love the other, let me show you how much: by my gifts, my thoughtfulness, by doing and being whatever pleases the other.

The 2nd experience of love, came to me late in life= when, during a particularly self induced time of unhappiness where the manifestations of 3D love were not what I desired I asked myself a question "What would love do?"  In resting within that question; letting the unhappiness rise and then flow through me, the  answer was so  clear:  loving the other, truly for who they are - in the world, to their families and friends, to me- was not dependent upon what they did for me.  Truly it just was.  It exists- independent of what the other does or doesn't do.  I experienced this profound sense of expansiveness and lightness.  As if I was floating, immersed in a vast and limitless sea of unqualified love.

Now when I I think of what my friend/teacher said " I have never met a person I didn't love", I  have a different response, a different awareness.  This awareness changed my life and my experiences with others.  It has led me to choose: to be even more discerning, to be even more un-entangled, to have even more awareness of being in the present with no agenda for how others should be.  The more I reside there with conscious awareness, the more true for me the statement becomes:

                                                             

"I have never met a person I didn't love"

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